When is marriage over? Have you come to the stage when you are asking yourself this question? Do you think that your relationship is in jeopardy or even nearing the end? Dos every day in your life consist of petty arguments, tiers and disappointment?
Well, there are only two ways to solve this problem and in this article I will try and take a closer look at both and share some of my own experience on this painful subject.
Get out.
Natural reaction of human being. Every human is programmed to preserve themselves and to avoid any dangers or anything they dislike. Easy way, you would think. Brake up with your partner and go and live your own life happily ever after. Unfortunately in real life things are not so simple. Far from it. All married couples have been together for an extended period of time (well maybe with exception of those who’ve got married on the drunken night out in Vegas). Couples have developed emotional bond over time and in some cases something very close to dependency. Very often people who think that they would be better off on themselves don’t even know how to lead a single life. After they have left their partners, they become lonely, have trouble to start another long term relationship and eventually become unhappy and disappointed in themselves.
And let’s not forget about children. Majority of married couples have children and despite what you may have heard of civilised divorce not traumatizing them, it still does. No matter if you separate your marriage quietly or in blaze of fire from both sides, it still will leave a trauma in your child’s mind for the rest of his/her life.
It may seem low, but don’t forget your assets. Are you OK with loosing half of what you have worked so hard to obtain? Please remember that when you divorce, you don’t just divorce your partner. You divorce your children, your family and your household.
Repair your marriage.
When is marriage over? When you decide to give up. And when you decide to give up, divorce happens which leads to everything I described above. Another way out is to fight for your marriage. It is possible to repair marriage and it is easier done than you think-even marriage which, you may think, is almost over.
In many cases, all it takes is to revive the romance which has been lost over the years. Establishing effective communication between you will do miracles to your marriage. Learning to forgive may be the key to your marriage success. Whatever it is, it’s not so hard to achieve. All you need is decision to give it a go.
I was in same situation some time ago. Cliché but I could not see a light at the end of a tunnel. I was convinced that my marriage is over and there is nothing I can do. I was getting desperate and that was affecting everything in my life – form relationship to my work performance.
When is marriage over? Not now and not for me. I found the way to save my marriage and I did it in shortest possible time. If you want to know how I did it, I would urge you to follow this link http://www.squidoo.com/help-save-marriage1